I was thinking how to add value to my blog posts so that it’s not only about outfits, trends, fashion, events etc. I love all these things, but I’m also a strong believer in personal growth. I’m going to trial the idea of adding useful tips, ideas I’ve heard or read recently on various personal development topics. I do hope you will enjoy and find it beneficial.
Firstly, this is probably my most colourful outfit EVER! So I have to tell a story behind it. It all started with my friend’s birthday theme: pink and black. When she said that I was thinking to myself, “oh dear, I have one pink t-shirt with bubble written on it”. But I didn’t want to be the one person who can’t be bothered to put an effort to fit in with the theme. I think I secretly love themed parties and events actually. So my initial idea was to get pink knee high socks and wear black, but to find those socks in a day turned out to be mission impossible. I’ve accidentally walked into M&S and saw this pink skirt. So basically my day was saved as the party had to be the following day. Imagine me all happy with a new pink skirt ready to party, and I get a call from my really upset friend saying that she split up with her boyfriend, it was a day before her birthday. In conclusion, no party and I have this pink skirt! What to do?! I know! I’m going to make a colourful outfit. And I think it worked quite well. I’m absolutely in love with this flowery top with pink faux fur pocket. And I’m so into socks in the shoes trend, I’ve been actually wearing socks in my heels for a while now.. But I think this trend is picking up at the moment. And I’m loving it, although I know it’s not for everyone. And on a positive note, my friend sorted things out with her boyfriend. The end.
Knowledge corner: How to avoid self destruction.
This week I was listening to various Tim Ferris’ audios, interviews, podcasts and I’m going share one thing which really stick with me. He talks a lot about stoicism – an ancient Greek school of philosophy founded at Athens by Zeno of Citium. The school taught that virtue, the highest good, is based on knowledge; the wise live in harmony with the divine Reason (also identified with Fate and Providence) that governs nature, and are indifferent to the vicissitudes of fortune and to pleasure and pain.
In one of the videos he was talking about fear setting technique. I’m sure we all heard about the importance of goal setting, but not the fear setting. I find his approach and the tool he shared for the fear setting very useful to analyse the reasons for our inaction, or inability to make one or another decision.
So you do fear setting by answering these 5 questions, preferably on a piece of paper:
- Visualising the worst case scenarios. Define your fear what the worst can happen?
- How you can prevent those worst case scenarios?
- What you could do to repair it if the worst case scenarios happened even a little bit or who could you ask for help?
- What might be the benefits of an attempt or partial success of the thing you are unsure about or afraid to do? What if it worked and the best case scenario happened?
- The cost of inaction (emotionally, physically, financially etc) in 6 months, 1 year, 3 years? What will happen and how your life will look like if you don’t take that action?